Friday, November 25, 2016

December Birthdays Suck: How to Help

I love Christmas - the decorations, the cookies, the Grinch! But if you have a birthday in December, the spirit of the season tends to outshine your special day. No one can compete with Santa.


Nevertheless, there are ways to mitigate the suck! Parents of December babies (and grown-up December babies themselves) gave me some suggestions about how to make Christmastime birthdays suck LESS.





If You Have a Child or Friend with a Birthday in December...


1) Use birthday wrapping paper only.

I love a shortcut, but Christmas paper is not okay. Out of birthday paper and the party is tomorrow? There are lots of cute printable wrapping papers online! 



2) Do not combine gifts.

You need to give one gift for the birthday, and a separate gift for Christmas. The birthday present should NOT have a Christmas or Santa theme. If you have a December baby, you may need to let your family and friends know about this rule ahead of time.



3) Consider an alternative party date.

December is a hectic month full of Christmas parties, shopping, and preparations for the holidays. Many people won't be able to attend a party this month, so consider hosting an UnBirthday party in November. And either way, get those invitations out early! At this time of year, the more notice, the better.



4) Celebrate Half-Birthdays! 

You can also have a half-birthday party in the summer to give your child a 6-month spread between their birthday and Christmas. This way, they get a full year of celebration.



5) Make a big deal on the big day.

This is a given, but it requires extra thought during the holidays. Many restaurants, theatres, and other venues are closed or have shortened hours, so plan ahead.



Bonus Tip: It helps to set aside some special time at home, especially if the birthday person was born ON Christmas day. My friend Lyss has a son who was born on Christmas. They always have cupcakes with candles, and his parents and grandparents all gather to talk specifically about the birthday boy - his birth, his life, and how things will change now that he's older. Lyss is careful to keep this celebration separate from the Christmas festivities.

Traditions like this will soften the blow when your kids are old enough to realize that the tree is not a Birthday Tree, and those fireworks on the 31st are not all about them. Good luck, and Merry Birthday.



Full disclosure: These ideas are all courtesy of my friends who have December birthdays or December babies in their families. Thank you to Merry, Brooke, Jocelyn, Meg, Ken, Evette, Lyss, Dana, and Robin. And happy birthday to most of them, as well. I will try REALLY hard not to forget this year.


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8 comments :

  1. Love this! Great tips and thank you for including mine. :)

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  2. As another December baby, I would add that santa chocolates/xmas themed presents are not fun when you're a kid!

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  3. Great summary! Love the printable wrapping paper tip.

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  4. I love it. I always swore my babies would not come in december but sure enough my oldest came on 12/31. We have done the only birthday wrapping paper and his birthday dinner is seperate from new years celebrations. I also learned after his first birthday that I say no to any family holiday events that morning (we do still go to a family new years eve party that night). As he gets older I really worry about friend parties and if people will be able too come or if his friends will be willing to celebrate his birthday on his birthday. A November party is a wonderful idea.

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  5. I love it. I always swore my babies would not come in december but sure enough my oldest came on 12/31. We have done the only birthday wrapping paper and his birthday dinner is seperate from new years celebrations. I also learned after his first birthday that I say no to any family holiday events that morning (we do still go to a family new years eve party that night). As he gets older I really worry about friend parties and if people will be able too come or if his friends will be willing to celebrate his birthday on his birthday. A November party is a wonderful idea.

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  6. This is good. I have various family members with December birthdays, and it is hard to acknowledge them around the holidays. My cousin's three girls have December birthdays and he and his wife lets the girls decide what month they want to have their birthday party during the year. I think that's a great idea!!

    Also love the printable wrapping paper tip - thanks!

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  7. As a person born 40 years ago on Dec 22, I have some insight to share. The things I appreciated that my mom did, was not putting up decorations until after my birthday; she did the birthday paper only thing which mattered until I was about 8, then I didn't care much; and my actual birthday was always a family celebration. The things I didn't like, having my birthday in November or January (everyone else gets their party close to their birthday, and although I understood, it never felt as special). Things I wish had been done: have my party in December sometime (send out invites far ahead, and gift doesn't need to be big or expensive, having it in December would have been an incredible gift itself) or let them choose the date, anytime in the year; make a big deal of the birthday, make it special and memorable. My mom said no joint gifts, but when I got older and could tell people different, I LOVED joint gifts because I got a better gift than I would have with 2 separate gifts (my sister, born in July was jealous). Birthdays were so unmemorable for me, that I celebrated up to 12, then 16 and tried for my 21st (wasn't successful in the slightest), but not since then, and I make a big deal for my kids birthdays so they enjoy them in ways I never was allowed because I was born in December.

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